Men don't cry. How many times have we heard that statement casually thrown around? Casual sexism as its best (read worst). If you think this is bad, you should hear the Hindi version: mard ko dard nahi hota. I can't even begin to talk about the number of things that are problematic with statements like these. Not just the sexism in the words, statements like these restrict men, not allowing them to be in touch with their emotions and feelings. And we all know how that disparity manifests in the worst ways possible in their relationships.
In this day and age where everyone is slowly moving towards more and more conversations regarding mental illnesses, the stigma attached with being "over emotional", feminism and sexism, it is important that a man's right to his emotions is also addressed. So let's all raise one for All India Bakchod's comic Tanmay Bhat for bringing this conversation to light on his Instagram story.
It all started when he came out and told everyone how he had a session of some cathartic bawling. Which, by the way, is legit. Crying is SO cathartic, because the aftermath is so relaxing and it feels like you have put away all the heavy emotional weight off your body.
What was a way to start a conversation about a man talking about his emotions became about how men should not be ashamed of embracing their feelings or even talking about it. It was a reality check time.
True story. There were some men who shared their emotions, making us feel like all wasn't lost after all.
And then were some quintessential "men" - ones who we all should be avoiding.
If this doesn't boil your blood for multiple reasons, what will? The sad truth is that this is the kind of men we have the misfortune of meeting more often. They are friends, brothers, fathers, men gossiping in the office, men you meet at train stations, lovers; they are men you influence boys. And therein the tragedy. Which brought us to this.
No surprises there. Because when men talk to women about their emotions, they are not met with judgement and raised eyebrows. Well, time to fix things up. Let's let the men cry, shall we?
Men don't cry. How many times have we heard that statement casually thrown around? Casual sexism as its best (read worst). If you think this is bad, you should hear the Hindi version: mard ko dard nahi hota. I can't even begin to talk about the number of things that are problematic with statements like these. Not just the sexism in the words, statements like these restrict men, not allowing them to be in touch with their emotions and feelings. And we all know how that disparity manifests in the worst ways possible in their relationships.
In this day and age where everyone is slowly moving towards more and more conversations regarding mental illnesses, the stigma attached with being "over emotional", feminism and sexism, it is important that a man's right to his emotions is also addressed. So let's all raise one for All India Bakchod's comic Tanmay Bhat for bringing this conversation to light on his Instagram story.
It all started when he came out and told everyone how he had a session of some cathartic bawling. Which, by the way, is legit. Crying is SO cathartic, because the aftermath is so relaxing and it feels like you have put away all the heavy emotional weight off your body.
What was a way to start a conversation about a man talking about his emotions became about how men should not be ashamed of embracing their feelings or even talking about it. It was a reality check time.
True story. There were some men who shared their emotions, making us feel like all wasn't lost after all.
And then were some quintessential "men" - ones who we all should be avoiding.
If this doesn't boil your blood for multiple reasons, what will? The sad truth is that this is the kind of men we have the misfortune of meeting more often. They are friends, brothers, fathers, men gossiping in the office, men you meet at train stations, lovers; they are men you influence boys. And therein the tragedy. Which brought us to this.
No surprises there. Because when men talk to women about their emotions, they are not met with judgement and raised eyebrows. Well, time to fix things up. Let's let the men cry, shall we?
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